Speaking of goal setting and working on self, WAH seems to be exactly on that track. He has in fact said 'after I let you go I am more productive' - feels he is a better father and spends more quality time with kids, I do not agree to this because he is angry more often at D3 - has lost weight before and after BD and maintains a good diet - extremely engaged with house hold chores, cooks, cleans which is new territory for him Is this typical of a WAS? why would they need a D to become a better person or work on themselves? I have been acknowledging everything he does around the house and get a grunt in return. Although I did not do this until now, I have finally let him be independent with all this since he seems to be wanting it his own way. Am I handling this well?
If the above is true, that is good, correct? Good for him. Just do not buy the crap that this is because of the BD. Even if he believes it (which I doubt) that is complete nonsense. For one, nobody feels a better father because they asked for D.
