We arrive here around the same time. My WAS gave me the BD 4/6, so not that long after yours. I also havent seen a lick of improvement, nor will I for the next two months as I am leaving town.
But this is early. Look around here at the people who have been doing this for a year or two, or even 4. I am not saying to wait that long, but I think both of us need to be patient. This process [censored] and I feel all the impatience that you do, to be out of this one way or another and fully healed. But healing ourselves and letting our Ws heal themselves takes time and patience.
The other thing I notice in your message is that it is nearly all about her. What are you doing? How is your GAL going? Are you making progress with your IC? You say that you are detached but nearly everything is about her. What are you doing to break the patterns you have seen in both marriages?
I get the hopelessness. I was there on Sunday. That is part of the process, but dont make any decisions based on emotion.
Hang in there man!
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
