Hi Jlh, I am in the same boat. It is like H walks around with a needle to burst my balloon at every turn. I am cheerful, he gets angrier, I am aloof and minding my own business he reminds me of the D process. Also does everything at home as if in competition to prove he is independent and doesnt need me anymore. So feels like it is a common behavior for the WAS. I try playing this in my mind when such things happen: treat WAS and his comments as tiny speck of dust on your shiny new detachment coat, dust it off whenever they spew poison so it doesnt soak in.
It's ridiculous and insane. I set up boundaries that work for me and my son and then H takes it way too casually and then the next thing I know he is bringing up his leaving again. Its like a twisted back and forth with his words. My H moved out to his own apartment but from what I gather, he barely does anything but see his mom and needy family. He said he was unhappy at home so I cant see how THAT is making him happy dealing with family issues.
Together for 13 years, married for 8. H is 46 I'm 40 S is 6 Bombdrop in April 2018 Still in limbo as of 2019
