When she delivered her pronouncement on BD "I don't want to be married anymore" she showed NO emotion at all. None. She wasn't happy, she wasn't sad, she wasn't angry.
Same as my wife. I only saw her cry once and it was certainly an act, as it lasted all of 30 seconds.
Originally Posted By: Steve85
She is a very emotional person, so it shows you how close to a complete shutdown she was. I honestly believe if things had gone unchanged for another month she would have been beyond the point of no return in her apathy towards me and MR.
About 3 weeks in I saw her get emotional about everything for the first time. And then she began a slow turnaround from there.
None of this is really relevant to your question, but I wanted to give the background on how profound that statement really is. Love can turn into hate, and you can still fix things. Once hate moves into apathy, it is a very difficult place to return from.
I thought my wife was an emotional person too, i think I was wrong about that though, looking back, i dont see much evidence of it. The only time i can think of when she was legitimately upset is when her father had a stroke and she feared losing him. I actually think due to her (awful) emotional connection to her father, that him dying is the "Major Loss" that Sandi refers to that may cause major changes in her life. It may cause her to finally seek IC and dredge up the bad memories tied to him.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
