Advice on My Scenario Pt 12-Less Talk More Action

[OrangeK]

[quote]24 - Be paitent - This seems directly contradictory from things you have told me,

No, telling you to be impatient would be directly contradictive. That may have been the way you interpreted the advice when I encouraged you to press forward and not just put your life on hold, waiting to see what she does. I do remember giving you the latter part of #24, which states, "When you pull back, it will draw them towards you". Maybe I messed up by not referring to it as a rule. [quote]

Ok this is what you meant when you said contradictory. my apologies.
What i meant by that is how you have told me that she is a unique case and is unlikely to seek the Prof. Help we discussed her needing to get before she can think about R.
You and Vanilla seem to have been in the camp that she is not a case for DBing and i should just go dark and move forward with D in order to avoid more abuse down the road. All VERY VALID.

Perhaps i have been believing this whole time i have been pulling back due to the TRO and haven't really been doing it.
I have fooled myself into thinking i wasn't pursuing because of the TRO. and evidently i have been. need to reevaluate.