Nicole - I am sorry to hear he's not as involved as a father. Coming from a culture with strict gender norms, there are tons of young men who are shedding that stereotype and being more involved fathers - from diapers to everything.
I came to post about something else that you said, and I guess it's open to other people as well. You mentioned that you would love to take your D to an activity, even with him, so that she could have fun.
I have really struggled with this - not that this is happening or I see it coming. But, what do you talk about with this person now? i feel like I don't know who my W is. Plus how do you go from separation with NC, except kids, to doing an activity and having a conversation? i just feel like I would have nothing to say to her outside of the kids. I have no desire to inquire about her life, work etc.
Anyways, I think about this a lot in case W ever invites me to do something. I am not initiating anything so I don't think that's going to change.
I can swallow my pride and emotions and be totally cool for the benefit of the kids, but I feel like I have lost how to interact with this person that isn't beyond just Hi or Hello.
Maybe I need to improve my social small talk skills. anyways, I am curious to know how you'd approach this, and others who are following your thread.
