Yes he's Middle Eastern. There are plenty of Middle Eastern men who are Westernized and who help with their kids but my husband isn't one of them. Oddly enough he used to beg me to have kids the first few years of our marriage when I was working full-time and he was staying home studying. He said he'd stay home with the baby. When we actually finally had a child he said on the first or second day "men from my country don't change diapers." He made it clear I was on my own. I could have lived with that. I got an Au Pair for a while and did everything else myself. There are plenty of families where the mother does most of the child raising although my husband obviously had no idea what he was saying years earlier when he said he'd care for the child.
I think my husband expects me to be the same as always - ready to go out whenever he's available. I'm not sure if he realized yet the extent of the damage he's done. We haven't talked about the relationship now since January or early February as far as I can recall.
I probably shouldn't have given any reasons why I can't go although it's kind of obvious that I'm sick so he would have figured that out.
I'd be so happy to take my daughter on a trip with my husband to give her a fun time. I know she'd love it. She'd be so happy to have us all together, walking in the middle holding our hands and we pull her up in the air together like we used to do. I really wish to do that for her. It doesn't seem right at this time though. There's a high chance at some point I'll have tears in my eyes and my husband will get stressed and it won't turn out well.
Perhaps we can do something together nearby some other time.
