Goals (in order of priority) 0 (highest Priority, ALWAYS): S3's stability and happiness
1: Get moved into my brothers house, as it will be rent free. Plan to save, pay off debt and get a new car while here.
2: Get all debts paid, financial situation stabilized, get a new car
3: Get my own place to live, where S3 can have his own room again, since WW leaving tore that away from him.
4: Continue the efforts i have been already doing in regards to excersize, diet, spirituality and education.
5: Hike and Climb
6: work towards getting a full time fire job, or at my friends plant making $$$$
7: Enjoy my new life with my new house, car, job, physique, and attitude.
Ok.....so this is a good start. Others might pick them apart because they are not listed out as SMART (Specific, Measureable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely) however good jumping point.
Now, let me start by saying this. YOU WILL STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOUR WIFE. Those will not go away overnight and your emotions just won't disappear however the more you focus on your goals, the more you talk about them and focus on them, the more you stick to what Sandi's has laid out in her rules and the less you place all your focus on your W the shift will start to happen.
Focusing on your goals combined with your GAL activities will start to turn the ship. Combined with the support from the board and if you can get into a good IC all the better.
You have to start moving the focus from your W and her activities to you. If you don't, this cycle will continue.
You can still love her but your doing it from a distance. Don't forget she is in an A with another man, she does not deserve your attention or focus.
