These last two things you described are probably the two hardest. A good IC would do wonders, finding an outlet for your anger (for me it is weightlifting), and how to feel complete without it involving someone else.
Additionally working on your self-esteem would probably help also. What things can you do (outside of female gratification) to help you start to feel good about yourself again? I feel like we talk a lot about the past and you asking for explanations but you don't talk very much at all about the positive things in your life or what your doing to create positive things in your life. Once I started accomplishing some of my goals my self-esteem started to improve and once that happened the focus started to shift from my EW.
Goals (in order of priority) 0 (highest Priority, ALWAYS): S3's stability and happiness
1: Get moved into my brothers house, as it will be rent free. Plan to save, pay off debt and get a new car while here.
2: Get all debts paid, financial situation stabilized, get a new car
3: Get my own place to live, where S3 can have his own room again, since WW leaving tore that away from him.
4: Continue the efforts i have been already doing in regards to excersize, diet, spirituality and education.
5: Hike and Climb
6: work towards getting a full time fire job, or at my friends plant making $$$$
7: Enjoy my new life with my new house, car, job, physique, and attitude.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
