Thanks for the hugs, PIB! What a dream, Pattie! Sounds like my elephant in the living room analogy.
Okay, last night was great - both the party I went to with friends, and the movie afterword (H and I went to see Home On the Range - without S). We had a blast. Tonight I will be going to my apt for the next three nights. H said this morning that he didn't want a D. Yes, you read that right. He actually said that.
Am I turning cartwheels? No. We have a long way to go before we are out of the marital difficulty woods. And he has changed his mind on this before. And there's also the possibility that he could have further problems with infidelity, in which case all bets are off and I WILL be getting a D.
I am a little scared, but not in a paralyzing way as I was when he was officially moving home. We are supposed to get our house sold, so I am not sure what will happen to us (H and I) when that happens. I am going to keep my eyes on the goal here - being the best me I can be, and making my apt a home over the next few months, as the house will be turning into a complete construction zone.
This doesn't mean things are magically okay! This means (IMO) that I am on the right track with concentrating on myself and living my own life. Something I am doing is working...this is results monitoring now. H responded very positively to my trip away, and seems to like it when I have a life of my own that I'm enjoying.
So today I am celebrating finding something that seems to be working, both for me and for my M. Hugs to all, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Hugs to you, sweetie! I know you wanted (no, needed) to hear those words. But can I say I'm not at all surprised? Even though before he said that he did, his actions spoke much more clearly in the truthful vein.
So, now that you know this, what are your goals? What can you do to prevent going back to the previous patterns which yielded negative results?
Sorry, but you know that I'm a goal driven person...
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
sad to say i have not kept up with your sitch, but i had to remark at something you put in betsey's thread, cause gosh darnit girl, it was simply profound
Quote: But I don't care anymore what people think of how unusual my situation is. It is working for us, and allowing two people who love each other very much to remain ineach other's lives in a way that doesn't hurt, but enhances both of those lives.
you may have not meant to, but this actually gave me goosebumps. this has been something that i have been trying to formulate in my mind for a couple of months now and just couldn't wrap my brain around it.
i mean as far as other people and them questioning my decisions
this says it all, and for that i thank you deeply.
Bets and KK- Thank you both! TripleJ - See, now that's honesty!
I am pretty stressed out, tired, and irritable right now. Part of it is because even though I know things are going well, I am really sad about not sleeping tonight, tomorrow night, and Saturday night with my husband. Bleagh. Bleagh. Bleagh. Bear with me while I ride out the bleagh wave, okay guys? It just kind of hit me all at once. Stupid hormones. For the next five or so days, I reserve the right to post weepy, bitchy, ranty posts...but you guys can still 2 x 4 me if I get out of hand. AUGH! DOWN WITH PMS!!! Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Your clarity helps all from the cynic like me, to the seasoned posters like kewlkitty and Betsey. I am impressed. 
Myrrh