"You say I can blow the lid off whenever I decide I've had enough. I think I've had enough, but am scared to tell her."

Then you haven't had enough. Having enough isn't something that you get an inkling of, when you've had enough it will outweigh all else and you will have ZERO fear of telling her.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018