Moving past the WAW-MCL to a stronger me

[Davide]

Thanks guys. Trust me, I am moving. With the biking, walking, rock climbing and yoga I have now dropped 40 lbs as of this morning. Exercise is not an issue for me! It just doesnt always help to clear my brain. Normally it does, but days like yesterday, no.

So, two things:

1. I just talked to my IC for the first time. I like him a lot more than the previous one already. His one big suggestion for dealing with the W is to try to come up with some sort of plan of communication so that I am not simply subject to her whims or desires. I would imagine that would be like emailing once a week about dog, house, car, financial stuff. What do you think? I told him that I backed off initiating communication as part of the lack of pursuit, and I am hesitant to do so for that reason - that it would put pressure on her. He pushed back that he thought it would be healthier. What do you all think?

2. As I was speaking with him the W wrote to tell me that the car is all good and I can take it whenever I need it this week to clean up stuff at school. She also asked if I wanted to say goodbye in person (before my trip) on Saturday, that she was fine with it, but could leave if I wanted.

I am, of course, absolutely fine with seeing her. I know how I want to handle the interaction (our first in a month) - positive, chipper, looking forward to the trip, not asking her any questions (about the R, about her future plans), validating her feelings, listening to her. I would like to share that I am putting my trip pictures on instagram, is that too pursuity? Anything else I should or shouldnt do?

I am in a good place right now, but I do worry that as the day draws near my anxiety will rise. That is normal, but I need to monitor it and make sure it stays under control.