Hello, I'm new here. :)

[Jlh]

I've been doing much better at everyone's advice here on distancing but it seems like more the more I do that the more H is cold and almost rude.

I try to text him to discuss house topics like bills or our son and he takes his time getting back to me, when he even bothers replying to verify questions.

Its like the more I set boundaries and keep things all business he throws out a comment or two about getting the rest of his things which he never follows through on or else tells me about how he is adding access for me to view our various utility accounts yet will continue giving me money to pay them.

When he does talk to me, he is SO casual, not exactly indifferent but he replies mostly with "Cool..." or "I'm in..." like he did when I went over our sons schedule to stay at both of our places. He barely discussed it with me he just stared blankly at the paper and said, "Cool..." He does this for everything I ask regarding the house and our son and then later on comes back with some form of comment where it feels like he's trying to make it known that he's in charge and that usually happens from him after I stand my ground on this. I focus on me and my son now and it's like H needs to stamp his foot and throw out a "rule" of his own to get back at me.

Is this part of the MLC process when they act like this? He was never this cold to me and he basically just tries to avoid me or else has something else to toss at me when he can see that I'm in better spirits or getting more control of my life and growing more independent.

Has this kind of thing ever happened to anyone else?