What have I done?

[Lyrael]

Thanks, everyone for the prompt and thoughtful replies. They have really given me some things to consider.

TJ-
My tendency to obsess and beat a subject to death has been a big problem in the past. So I think not bringing it up is an excellent idea, and yet another opportunity for a 180. Also it's kind of a "let's not rub salt in the wound" kind of strategy.

Pattie-
I don't think it's ever happened to me except in very, very sleepy situations. Once when H and I were first dating I believe I called him by an ex-guy's name, but he didn't say anything about it until months later. I was clueless as well, but I am still glad to see your smiling face!

Karen-
That is absolutely true - he tells me about weird dreams he has all the time. And I woke up last night after having a nightmare involving him, and being very surprised that he was laying next to me. I dream about exes, making out with women, etc - my dreams are very wild - it is kind of ironic that this one wasn't even one of those.

I think he does believe me - we are still on for the movies tonight, and that's a good sign.

Bets-
Thanks for the slightly different perspective. I felt a little frightened when I woke up suddenly like that, although I had asked him to wake me up last night. Even if it had been a dream like that, it wasn't anything that would ever happen. I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I would never cheat on my H - part of the recent conclusions I've come to. I hope he knows that, too.

Seattle -
I think I clarified everything fairly well, once the initial shock wore off. I think he understood everything I said, and he even joked about it later. I think I just need to let it go, for now.

Deb-
I think you could be right. I believe he has had some questions in his own mind lately about the strength of my commitment to him (not that he has really made any sort of overt commitment to me, mind you).

My conclusions after much thought:
1) This incident, while embarassing and awkward for both of us, may not have been a deal breaker.
2) Just not bringing it up is a good idea.
3) Asking him to ease into waking me up a bit more (i.e. saying my name at least once) might be a good topic for discussion.

That's what I've come up with. Anyway, tonight it will be just him and I, and then S and I will be spending Thurs, Fri, and Sat nights at the apt, and coming back Sunday evening. It will be kind of crappy, but if I can do it with a minimum of drama and emotion, I think it may be a good thing for both of us. I think he will miss S and I very much.

He is being so sweet, tender, and loving lately, and I would hate for that to end (but you know I'll deal with it if it does ).
Thanks again, all of you, for the great help.
I have a party to attend tonight , and then movies with H, so I will let you know how all that goes!
Hugs
Myrrh