Quote: I think I just sealed the death warrant of our marriage because I was half asleep and dreaming.
Well, did Dustin seal the warrant by actually having an affair?
We know the answer to that question, so let's move along.
I think it's awfully unfortunate that he personalized something that wasn't reality. The fact is, your subconscious mind is NOT reality, nor anywhere close to it. (BTW, I had a dream that I jumped in the sack with Mr. Wonderful's best friend from childhood... where did that come from? Will it ever be true? NEVER.)
If you bring this up again, it's going to give the matter more weight than it deserves. I have to tell you that I'm going to actually point a finger at Dustin for waking you up in the middle of a sound sleep. You didn't hurt him, Myrrh. He felt hurt because he CHOSE to interpret something as reality.
Does this make sense?
I wouldn't give this another passing thought. Unless HE brings it up, and then I'd definitely mention, "Sweetie, I dream about a lot of things. It's like living a book. If I'm asleep, I would appreciate it if you would allow me to continue sleeping--unless I tell you in advance to wake me up."
And if you reiterate the point that you get up early to take care of Rhane and have to get to your daytime job, and that you are a very busy lady with a lot of responsibilities and need sleep to think clearly, he just might get it that you are not ignoring him. You have different life schedules.
Maybe you could sit down at the beginning of the week with a calendar and pencil in times to spend together (including the nights where you want to ).
Just my 2 cents worth.
Big hugs!
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
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