Wife is not who I married... Pls Help Part 3

[HelenaJ]

Got it, I have been reading your posts lately and so I went back and read your first couple as well but I haven't read all three threads.

Anyway, I was asking about clarity on the religion aspect bc I wasn't sure if your faith was considerably stronger than hers or if you were both very devoted. Developing a considerably stronger faith along the way could definitely impact the marriage and I was curious about that.

My M is a mess so I don't feel ultra comfortable offering M advice, ha, but I do have 4 wonderful children so I do feel somewhat qualified in that regard.

My advice to you stands then....what happens between you and your wife, as unfortunate as it may be is between the two of you and I would try to tell your son that as much as possible. He will grow up with his own feelings about the commitment of marriage and his opinion about his Mom leaving the marriage may continue to be very strong, however, he should still have a loving relationship with her in order to grow into his fullest potential. I am a firm believer that both parents are absolutely critical to a child's development and to that end, it should be encouraged. Not forced but HIGHLY encouraged. As parents, we know how to delicately do that