But be careful in getting to hopeful. This feels like she is trying to make sure good old overrnbw is still underneath her as a safety net. WWs do not like to be dangling from a trapeze with no safety net. When you start detaching properly she will feel the lack of control over you and she will freak out. She wants her Plan B secured, and by you detaching she feels that the safety net is slowly being removed. It makes her feel vulnerable.
You're right. I need to back off and not be there for long convos. Quick, brief, see ya later.
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So take all of this with a huge grain of salt. And for pete's sake stop telling her that her affair is wrong.
She asked me if I thought it was wrong, that's why I brought it up.
Good to hear from you Steve.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
