It is all her concern for herself. Every bit of it is about her!
Ok. I need to do what works, but what do I do or say about these things she is saying? Validate feelings, stand ground on affair being solely her choice and wrong?
Let her talk, listen, dont say much. Dont dig yourself deeper, dont let yourself be taken advantage of.
Are you truly following ALL of Sandi's rules?
Print them out or type them into a post, and rate yourself on how well you are doing with each one. Those 37 rules are gold. Follow them.
I'm going to bars sometimes with friends.
I kinda have talked R a little, but in response to her bringing up things (which is OK, right?). I haven't said "let's try" or tried begging, pleading, reasoning in over a month. I went LRT about a month ago.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
