My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 2

[mtb1981]

I feel like were getting closer. I texted WW about a house key, she called me and we talked on the phone for 1 hour. She says she cant force herself to try, cares about me, but isnt "in love". I just validated her feelings. She is talking to me a lot.

How do you feel you are getting closer?!?! She is banging another dude, telling you she does not want to be with you, and justifying her affair. You are not getting closer, that is just what you want to believe. It is what she wants you to believe too because it makes it easier to continue doing what she is doing.

And her saying she cannot force herself to try is a cop out too. My W pulled the same crap. Said she tried to try but just could not. No, you cannot try to try. You either do or do not. And I have not met anyone that did not have to force themselves to try something they did not want to do. She just does not want to try...