My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 2

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I feel like we're getting closer. I texted WW about a house key, she called me and we talked on the phone for 1 hour. She says she can't force herself to try, cares about me, but isn't "in love". I just validated her feelings. She is talking to me a lot.

I told her that her affair is wrong today, she asked me if I thought it was wrong yesterday and I didn't respond but she commented on my facial reaction, which said what I thought. She said she wouldn't call it that bc I controlled her into doing it by being a bad H.

I also stopped her when she got nasty with me and simply said "I'm not going to be talked to like that, I'll leave if I need to." The conversation got better.

Did I validate a bad behavior?

My counselor says it's fine not to pursue, but to open a window for her to come back.

Vanilla, which part were you referencing I should say "serves you right" to?