as far as i know, i have never advised anybody to file for D... i believe people come here because they want to save their Ms... and by that, i mean they want more than simply existing in a M... they want a thriving, healthy M... if you know my story, you know that my H and i were separated for quite awhile... we went our separate ways... in that time, we were both able to work on ourselves... heal ourselves--with no expectation of coming together...
i do not believe Helena will achieve a healthy, loving M while living with her H, who has no reason to change while she puts up with him... i think she has a greater chance to heal, thrive, and possibly see changes in her H if she were to remove herself from his poison... and yes--i think his current attitude is poisonous to her and their family... her children are affected... i've seen the results in my own brother's adult children... their mother poisoned them for years as they lived "the happy, whole family."
--artista
p.s.--i would not be surprised if at some point, Helena's H ups and leaves her... he could do it... he is not a man of character...
