Hello, I'm new here. :)

[Jlh]

I recently wrote up my boundaries and H and I agreed on visitations with our son. He will come over after work every Tuesday and Thursday to take him out for a bit to his place or dinner, etc, and he has him every other weekend.

My question is, regarding distancing and last resort technique is this enough space still seeing him during the drop-off pickups on the weekdays every week and this seems like a fair time for him to visit given HE left us and our home. I explained that this is an easier thing for me to do it this way given my feelings are still in shambles to which he interrupts me and says, "I get it, I totally get it." I'm not trying to plead with him or anything, I was just explaining the rules and why this works for me and he cuts me off.

It's like he has to be the one in control. If I try to speak he gets defensive, yet he's allowed to run off and do what he wants and stay mysterious.