Thanks LoneWlf for the kind comments. I put up my story as a 30 second elevator pitch to showcase that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I know that many people have had it worse than me for sure, but that doesn't minimize what I have been through. and people who feel their life has been easier compared to mine should not minimize their journey either - all of this $hit is hard.
There is a lot of love and hope in this world. I made myself see it even though I was always a negative nancy. and you know what, I am hopeful and full of love. I have learned this - acknowledge and understand the tragic realities of your life, and move towards a future grounded in your hopes, dreams, and loves. And you know what, my hopes and dreams and loves are where my joy is. and I actively choose joy over self-pity. And because my joy is rooted in my hopes and dreams and loves, it is pure, authentic, and all for me. I couldn't ask for more.