Moving past the WAW-MCL to a stronger me

[Davide]

Steve,

Thanks for taking the time to re-read my entire sitch. You have a very good handle on what is happening.

Yeah... the W is conflicted. I knew that and know that. However, I am doing my best not to dwell in her head at this point. It doesnt do me any good, its just another cheeseless tunnel.

You are right that her actions and words do still have the power to wound me. Absolutely. However, at this point I don't think they have the power to flatten me, to crush me. Like I said earlier, I think something changed after Tuesday night. I loosened my grip on the rope. I didnt drop it entirely, but there is a lot more slack than before. Is it realistic to expect myself to have fully detached in just 2 months post BD?

I am leaving town for a two month trip in 8 days. I will be traveling the country, camping in national parks, visiting friends and family throughout, taking pictures, having adventures. I think that will help immensely with the detachment as it will provide lots of distance as well as a break from the normal routine.

I am well aware that success in this regard is not measured by reconciliation or not. I do still wish for that outcome, but I have realized that I will come out the other side of this stronger and better than before. I know that so long as I put in the work success (on my terms) is more or less guaranteed.