The bomb woke me up, but she won't talk

[Davide]

The key to DBing is to 1) prepare yourself no matter what the future holds 2) remove all pursuit and pressure from the WAS to try to coax them to get curious about why that went away and come looking 3) to not remind them of what they have stated they want or how they feel

I love this. I think 3 is tied in with 2, as all that sort of talk puts pressure on them. But this is a great summary.