Good to know. So suppose taking example of my WAW who is not wayward but is just walking out of my life. She mentioned in her supposedly final text " I dont deserve her!". I have been her doormat for 6 years and i finally got this from her. I have read your detachment and accordingly we should not beleive anything they say and only 50% of what they do. If i characterize my wife as normal, what does the above statement really mean then? Also after we permanently divorce and move on, will she ever realize all the hurt she caused me ever?
This is from Did's thread.
Nutcrac, lots of LBSs go through this "will they ever realize how much pain they caused?" And my question to this is: Why does that matter? To me that is a question that proves that you have not detached. You are still to worried about her thoughts, feelings and doings.
Here is the key, she realizes the pain she is causing. The problem is not one of realization, the problem is she just doesn't care. In another thread I read that the WW/WAW said to the LBH that she was tired of being sensible and wanted to be a "wild grandma". This is the mindset (as sandi can describe better than I can) of the wayward. They know they are leaving a path of destruction, they just don't care.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
