In my sitch the financial outcome was bizarre. Two things of note - First she wanted a lump sum payment not alimony. Her L added that I must pay the income tax on her lump sum so she gets the full amount. Whatever, here in Canada alimony is taxed and lump sum payment is not - so I owned nothing extra.
Second I had to pay her L fees. This was written into the agreement, which I agreed to. It seemed like W and her L saw this as some big win. Whatever.
I found out, almost anything can be written in to your separation agreement, and if both parties sign then that is it. But forcing him to have to pay L fees in court, well like everything else in court who knows what will happen - that is why you are in court to have a judge figure it out.
So, if you are asking him to pay and he does great. If he is refusing maybe removing the L fees will be like a bargain chip and allow you a win in other areas.
Remain strong HaWho.
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
