Is there hope?

[DnJ]

scoobs7, I understand what you are going through and I am sorry. Please know that what you are feeling is normal.

You asked - What am I doing wrong?

Try not to look at this as what are you doing right or wrong. In her mind it is mostly all wrong, then maybe some right, then back to wrong. You get the idea. Heck somehow I was wrong for the furnace vent blowing air on to W and making her feel cold.

As peacetoday said, you could be doing everything right and W will see it as wrong. She needs to do that, to justify what she is doing.

Hopefully you can see that the question you are asking yourself is - What am I doing that W thinks is wrong? Try not to look at it that way. Do not let her judge your actions. You judge your own actions. (btw I found that pretty darn tough at the beginning)

So if you start asking the question - What am I doing (right / wrong)? And you answer it for yourself. You will do the right thing. You will do right for your kids. You will do right for scoobs7.

Focus on you and your kids. You will do the right things for the right reasons.

Hang in there, I know how difficult this is. Post, ask questions, vent, whatever it takes.

We are here for you.