Well I always let thing rest...this is what I don't understand. I never initiate texting her or anything of the sort. So until she takes it upon herself to text me...as far as I'm concerned I am constantly letting it rest.

But this is another example of where it gets confusing. I have some here telling me she's "all but throwing herself at me," some telling me that there's people here who would love to be in my sitch right now but I'm going to blow it because of fear, and then there's people telling me I'm likely in the friend zone.
If I am in the friend zone then my patience with her and this sitch is limited. You don't send your friend/ex husband, whom i would assume you don't want to send a wrong signal to, a pic with penises. That's insane to me. That's the last type of subject matter I would send to a girl that I wanted to be sure understood my motives are strictly friendship. She initiates this stuff on her own. I mean what kind of alternate reply would she have expected from me other than something sexual considering the subject of the pic.

I'm not playing these games with her.
She's had four years to figure this out. She reached out to me and made contact again...and has been relentless in maintaining that contact all on her own. I have a limited tolerance for this friend zone crap. Sure I'd love to see us R at some point...but not at a cost of playing this friend zone game with her for months on end. I'm not getting any younger here.
This is why I am so tempted to just tell her next time we're together that if she wants to slowly work things out together then fine. If not and you just want me to be your pal untik either of us is with someone else... sorry, not doing that. I respect myself too much.

She wants me in her life for a reason and she's made that abundantly clear since she first contacted me after our years of silence. I just don't think she wants to eat crow with everyone, her friends, family, etc by starting up with me again.
But that's her issue to figure out but I am not sitting in her friend zone like a stooge waiting for her to decide. This is her chance, there won't be another. If we don't make this work this time, I will never revisit this again. I just refuse to play this game with her. If you want to be sure your ex-husband knows you just want to be friends...you don't send penis pics to him. End of story.


ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14