Thanks for the response Steve85. Yes you are right Detachment is 100% out of the emotional attachment. I have been aiming for that and my wife has driven me almost to the edge of it. A few more steps towards detachment and I will pursue someone who can understand me better. Its been a long journey so far and so i sometimes see if there is any hope left in this relationship. When she spoke yesterday she hinted she expects some kind of an apology from my parents for her the argument that happened. Although I hurt my parents by losing contact and apologised to her on their behalf, I am willing to have them apologize provided she can withdraw the divorce. But there is no gaurantee. So was wondering how I can handle the situation? If not i should simply LRT and carry on with my life?
WHy are you brokering between your parents and her? Are your parents really sorry for the argument? Or are they only going to apologize to try to save your MR? You're right, likely she doesn't think they are willing to and IF they did she would probably find another roadblock to R.
Nutcrac, detachment isn't about being able to move on to someone else. Detachment = self differentiation. That is being happy with yourself regardless if you are with your W, or a new GF or not. And if you are with one of them, being happy with yourself no matter what they say or do. So many posters on this board have their own definition of detachment. But if you are framing it in terms of jumping from your W to someone new, then you don't understand truly what detachment means.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
