Yea. She seems to be suffering from some negative attachments that happened in the past and is unable to let go off. Right now i am doing LRT and I only speak to my wife when she contacts me. However every time she interacts with me she is either very emotional or very upset. Hence I set the boundaries since the court date is nearing. After divorce I am done with this relationship and want to move on. Henxe I suggested this approach for which she got really upset.
nutcrac, I hope you are right that you are done with the MR and want to move on. However, a few posts above you point out that it is sad that she refuses to take even 1% of the blame for the MR problems.
To me that is not someone that is done and wants to move on. Remember, detachment is not LRT (please don't take that to mean that I don't think you should be LRT since it sounds like it is perfect for your sitch), but it is separating YOUR emotions from HER words and actions. When you can post that you are done and want to move on without having just said it is sad that she said this or didn't say that, or did this or didn't do that, then you will be properly detached in order to move forward healthy and happy. So think about that.
DBing is less about saving the MR and more saving yourself. The irony is that when you save yourself, oftentimes the MR is saved as well.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
