It sounds like your wife is struggling with the finality of the situation, like she is confused and hurt and lashing out at you.

I think you need to not react to her emotionality. Detached friendliness is best. Do what you need to in order to protect yourself and your kids. Remember you are the lighthouse.

I am no expert but I wish you the best. It sounds tough to bear, but you are strong enough to do it. Hang in there.

W 34 Me 42
Married 7 years together 8
0 kids 1 beloved dog
BD 4/6/2018
I moved out 4/7/2018
I moved back in alone 8/05/2018
I file 3/06/2019
D official 5/7/2019