Thanks again everyone for more great supportive comments and remarks. I will still respond to each one. I've been sick and got further behind on everything. Helena, the main health problem I have is called chronic erosive gastritis but in the past few weeks I've simply had several cold viruses, allergies, and now, thanks to my daughter, pink eye.
A quick update - not really any changes. When my husband visited last week he spent almost no time with our daughter. He was with his family most of the time. My normal reaction would be to complain and make him feel guilty. I really wanted to do that, but I stayed silent. As it turns out, he regretted his actions on his own and called that night saying he will be back in 10 days to spend more time with her and that he shouldn't have done that. He also said he wants to start doing FaceTime with her every day, although so far he's only achieved about 50% of days. He also didn't come back in 10 days but it'll be two weeks of absence when he arrives back this Sunday.
I have to admit that two things made me happy and laugh regarding my husband recently. The other week our daughter told him we were visiting "mommy's friend" that night and when she said the name it sounded like "Donny." My husband asked "Who's Donny!?" And she just said "mommy's friend." Then he asked again a minute later, "who's Donny?" My daughter didn't answer and I didn't make any effort towards telling him it's a female friend of mine. A short time later he called and I told him we're busy and I'll call later. Then a few minutes later he texted and said it's urgent. So I called him back and it was a question about insurance. Something about the timing of those two calls after learning we're visiting "Donny" seemed suspicious. Something similar happened again where my daughter told him we're going to "my school" and he thought she said "Michael." And he said "Who's Michael!?" So clearly he was alarmed at the thought of me taking my daughter to visit a man friend even though that never happened. It was funny though.
I haven't communicated much with my husband otherwise but tonight he was on FaceTime with our daughter and asked something and heard that I was sick. I told him I already saw a doctor and got a prescription and he said "you should have called me, I would have sent a prescription for you." That's a surprise because a few months ago he could have cared less about anything happening with me.
Final note is that my husband has called at various times, and my daughter has called him back at various times, and he always seems to be alone wherever he is, even later at night. I'm guessing things didn't work out so well with his 26 year old girlfriend or he's keeping it casual. Hopefully being alone in our old city while all the 'action' is happening up here with us and his family and friends in our Northern city is making him think twice about everything.
There's no indication that my husband wants to fix our marriage, although with each passing week there's still no new mention of divorce, so I don't know what to think. For now I'm leaving everything as-it-is. My husband is sending all of the money I requested each month and has offered to send more.
I'm not too hopeful that my husband will try to fix our marriage because while there's been no new mention of divorce, there's been no apology or mention of reconciling either. I know most of you have recommended that I not consider him again in the future but honestly everything would depend on the circumstances. I'll comment more in another post ASAP and look forward to responding to each of your posts. Thanks again.
