My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 2

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Nope. You misunderstood what was going on. See above.

Doh. I have to temper my desires, they influence my thoughts.

Wow that sounds really passive/ aggressive. Does she have those tendencies?

Not typically, but she is acting way out of her moral code right now. And she is certainly struggling with her self image, spewing nonsense, and rewriting history all while being sad and wringing her hands over how people perceive her.

Two HOURS???? No bueno.

I probably should have just said no to the interaction. It was dumb that she woke me up in the first place. It took another hour to me to fall back asleep.

So basically you abandoned your DB'ing and went off the rails. Well that's a big backslide to be sure. Time to get back on the horse. Remember- LISTEN and VALIDATE. Nothing more. This isn't the time for you to share feelings and such.

Doh. So how do I respond when she asks who I've told? "Nunya"? (as in nunya bidness)