You seem big on calling her out. Do you really think that will help you accomplish your goals? I'd avoid anything that you'd refer to as "calling her out".
I'm an argumentative person by nature...I haven't been doing. But even though she's having the affair, just stay away from that?
I haven't seen a definitive guide on dealing with the WW, and I saw a post how you should not validate a WW like you would a WAW. So I'm confused there.
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Go back and read the detachment and validation threads. You need to listen. Acknowledge. Validate her feelings. But do not react or respond.
Ok, thanks.
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The bed thing was a tough one. I would have just defended myself (blocking her hands, or the hitting or kicking) until she got tired of it. If she moves on to more physical things, well you may need to threaten to call the police. Obviously you do not want to return in kind. Likely she was trying to provoke you to get you removed from the house because of domestic abuse. Do not take the bait.
Well at first it seemed playful and almost affectionate. I know I want to believe that too, so I'm careful to not believe it.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
