My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 2

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When she was looking for comfort from me on Friday and Saturday, should I have declined? Or is it reinforcing our bond when she spills her guts to me? I am conflicted bc of her affair. Why should I be the shoulder to cry on? I have been alone through my pain.

When she was trying to "kick me out" of bed, she woke me up and tickled me for several minutes. Then I kind of tickled her back, but she wasn't too responsive to that. Then she escalated into more physical behavior and I had to tell her to stop. Then she went into fight mode. What the hell is she doing, thinking, feeling?

When she is being manipulative, do I "call her out" on that?

When she is asking who I've told about the affair, do I point out that she clearly thinks it is wrong? Why hide your car if you're doing nothing wrong?

When she goes all "you did this to me" to justify her affair, do I call her out? When she goes revisionist history on me, do I call her out?