I am awaiting the same list of items from my wife for her impending move from the house in August. (I am currently out). I am sure that will be a trigger.

Unless there is something you want on the list I would just tell her that it looks good. I agree about not nickel and diming her. For me the biggest hurdle was our dog, whom we both love dearly and got together. I already got that out of the way by saying that I wanted the dog, and she agreed.

I dont understand what is passive/aggressive about putting together a list like that. It sounds pretty reasonable to me if there is going to be a separation. That's not to say it is easy to take, far from it. Just let her know you read it and what you think about it and try to detach. (Hard I know.)

I'll be there soon enough joining you.

W 34 Me 42
Married 7 years together 8
0 kids 1 beloved dog
BD 4/6/2018
I moved out 4/7/2018
I moved back in alone 8/05/2018
I file 3/06/2019
D official 5/7/2019