ballast I'll let others weigh in, but I espouse the Biblical view of loving your wife. "Love your wife as Christ loves the church and gave Himself for it." That means not fighting with her over minute details of the D. She wants the silverware? Give it to her. She wants the Italian leather couch? Give it to her. Do not turn D discussions into wars. Bend over backwards to accommodate her.

Most are afraid of getting taken to the cleaners, but what is more important? Letting your WAW know that you still love her unconditionally, or getting a bunch of stuff that will have no value in a few years?

I know the emotional side of this is bigger than the minute details, and that is what you are struggling with. But by letting go it will show her that you are not going to engage her in controversial D topics. Again, it is the opposite of what she is expecting and that will cause her to take notice.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018