Can I really do this #2

[SteveLW]

Is there a way by waiting that my MR might be saved?
Would asking her to do the 2 day intensive with Michelle be a good or bad idea?

Answers in order:

No one knows.
This would be seen as pursuit, so you should wait until she is ready to consider reconciliation.

To expand on the first answer. Giving up on your MR will almost certainly end it. In fact, this is the most common outcome, where the LBS finally has had enough of waiting, being in limbo, and hurting that they finally through 180s, GAL, detachment and improving their own self worth decide it is time to move on, so they initiate the D and move forward with it.

So yes, waiting can eventually save your MR, but there is no guarantee and a lot of hard work, DBing properly, and continued hurting that have to be gone through to get there with, and this is the rub, NO GUARANTEE of saving it.

So your choice is to end it yourself, or waiting as long as you can with no guarantee of saving it.