I agree that the fact that your W is reacting like this is a sign that she is out of control - she is reacting emotionally to your actions. That seems better to me than no reaction. She feels you pulling away and doesnt like it. I wish I got that reaction.

Stay detached. It sounds like you and your IC are doing a good job. Keep it up. Detachment puts you in control.

W 34 Me 42
Married 7 years together 8
0 kids 1 beloved dog
BD 4/6/2018
I moved out 4/7/2018
I moved back in alone 8/05/2018
I file 3/06/2019
D official 5/7/2019