Steve...thank you as always for your quick replies.
I'm not the most spiritually developed person so to speak. I was really talking more about abstractly about God's plan/hand in this without appreciating free will we each have. I'd said my struggle is more on the WHY this happened (did God let this happen) than on the control/change of her.
I see the poison a spouse being selfish causes an MR. A couple just can't hope to survive with that in the heart of one of them. I took my ring off simply put as she had done the same much earlier. I will not be a Plan B..
Yep, I get that grips. Again I was talking more in the abstract of relationships rather than in the reality of a WW as we talk about so much here. Her traveling is her attempt to escape reality, in fact she has another lined up for July already as well. As my IC says, no matter what she does she's not able to find happiness for herself. Intrestingly IC also thinks she'll try to come back before D. She says all of her anger is covering a deep fear of losing me and that somewhere deep in her is the very strong fear of "Oh S88T, I've really lost him now and I'm still not happy!"
I do appreciate the counsel/comments. It's great for each of us to learn/share with each other and progress.
