Hello, I'm new here. :)

[Jlh]

You'll get more replies if you pose questions. Journaling is great, and I use my threads for that too, but you'll get more traffic with questions. Also, you can post from day 1 on other people's threads. That also increases more traffic as other people will want to read your thread and comment.

Thanks! I was told I can only comment on my original post until I hit 100 comments. I guess that's why nobody sees my questions I've been putting only here.

That means that you stay on this thread before you start a new thread, however you can post on other peoples threads to give them support and learn things.

Sorry you are confused about this point.

So I changed my subject title for a question I have if that's ok. What do I do if a family member on H's side is just a real mess, needs therapy and is causing H a bit of stress that added to his already piled up issues. Do I just say "I'm sorry that's happening to you" and continue GALing and taking care of me and our child, or is it ok to be an ear to listen when he vents. He told me before the big BD that he didn't like talking to me about his family issues due to me judging and not being supportive, but as of late he's been filling me in on everything and it's a doozy for him. Should I stop being the ear and continue distancing, because I have a feeling someone will tell me that asking him and talking about his family will just be pursuing and it's not exactly that, I just care about a lot of his family still and worry.