Today's low point -- Just got another note from my H. When he is asking for something horrible (get out of our house so he can have money) in this really calm and seemingly clear way (and using my intimate nickname!), I feel like my blood is turned to battery acid and that I will die from the panic. Note the implication that my dad supports me -- my dad does help but I am earning okay money and trying to pay for all our debts and all our kids needs with it. Our cabin is also a biz, we rent to pay its mortgage, but it would be better to have him there than here I guess. I did prepare the spreadsheet you all recommended, so I am going to send it to him with the e-mail I am posting below. But I am shaking like a leaf.
H wrote:
Gerds,
I just found out that the X job ends for me Aug 3 and (adjunct job) doesn't begin till September. I'd like to seriously work hard to rent the apartment, both to earn some money to live on and to be able to go some place peaceful for the month to finish my dissertation. I know you've been hankering to do that to rent and leave for a month and since August (since (our old biz I sold and am in court for) is no longer and since my parents don't support me) constitutes for me the summit of financial crisis and profound stress, we should be seasonally earning the necessary money from (our house) to alleviate what is for me a difficult (and very avoidable) situation. Let me know what you think. -H
Attached is the info you asked about.
What $ amount do you need to accomplish your goals for August and September? I will try to rent around shorter summer trips I hope to take, once I know the dates, to provide the money you require without forcing me and the kid to leave when we are not able to. I have work and Leos has summer school and hopefully a transfer to a private school, among other things. Let me know the $ amount you need and if you are hoping to use the cabin for any of the trip or will be going elsewhere.
