More on the exchange. This is a classic MLC moment -- dude has totally given up all responsibility and left me to clean up the mess and pay for all our debts, all our kids, everything alone with no help in any way, and now says that for some "mysterious" reason he feels child like and dependent! He made a covenant marriage, made some children and made huge debts but now wants "someone" to get him out of actually paying for either! I hand him a list of all expenses and income and he can't deal with even looking at it but blames me for keeping him in a child like dependency! He demands money to go away but can't come up with how much, only that he wants a place "just like our (cabin) home" that isn't our home! Welcome to MLC!
From: H
Thanks for the numbers. I'd rather not discuss them or discuss how I feel and think about their organization, place and purpose without a knowing-professional mediator. I am still trying to convince my Green Path person to come out of his leave of absence to meet with us, to guide us, to train us how to most efficiently-painlessly channel both gains and losses. (He already told me he'd immediately strike deals with all our CC creditors and with our bank loaners in ways that would lower monthly costs drastically.) In any case, the prospect of taking up money questions with you has for nearly two decades — and for reasons mysterious — inspired in me a such a feeling a fear and self-defeat and also child-like dependency that I can only take up money questions with a disinterested clear-headed observer professional. He usually charges 100-200 dollars. Hopefully he'll comes. I am crossing my fingers. He's gentle, smart, practical and effective.
Gerda wrote:
I just need to know the amount you need for the August plan you mentioned. You had a good idea for you to undertake that trip.
H wrote:
I am looking on trustedhousesitters bcs I'd like to remain in one place but if I can't find a place I'd like to pay for another bucolic place like our cabin.
