Is it a dumb idea to expose her affair to her friends and family? I'm reading something that says it's the best way to end the affair. But that doesn't guarantee she'll come back to me anyways.
Don't try to mix and match different approaches. Pick one and stick with it. If you are going to stick to DB'ing then do not expose the affair, because that will look to her like you are trying to rally everyone against her and she will resent you for it. I am not sure where some of these other sites come up with this info, I have never heard of a couple successfully reconciling because one of them shamed the other by exposing their A to everyone. Usually it just makes them go deeper undercover with it, and they cling to the OP because they think it's just the two of them against the world. So exposing the affair can actually drive them closer together.
