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[Jim1234]

Nicole, I wish I could read between the lines, too. It could have happened for any or all the reasons you mentioned, but I think you nailed the most likely one.... she was bored, wanted to see it, and she's comfortable around me. Who knows.

And should I have said no?

Jim I think you do whatever is comfortable to you as long as you can do it with no emotions, no expectations and it doesn't have an impact on your children giving them the impression that mom and dad are getting back together.

I would say it does seem kind of odd but every R is different and has their nuances. My EW will invite me but she has not invited herself.

I would also say that when you start to date and get serious with another woman I highly doubt you will feel comfortable with this happening and then you will probably say "no" if she asks.

J9, I had no expectations, highly doubt it gives the kids the impression that we're getting back together, but part of me thinks I shouldn't be allowing her to cake-eat, you know, divorce me, but still do things as a family when convenient to her. Part of me was happy to have her come along. That's why I am curious as to whether I should have said "OK" when she asked.