I understand the dilemma. For my own career going forward it would probably be better to relocate but that would require selling the house and foreclosing any possibility of R with the W. I know that I am not there yet but you seem much further along in your journey. I wish you the best!
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019