How does someone in my sitch do NC or go dark? we live together taking care of 2 small Ds, communicate frequently about children, I do not initiate convo unless it is about children and keep my replies to him only to topic. H is angry when I do not explicitly keep him informed, it is a 180 for me because I used to communicate every single thought in my head earlier 1) I took kids out last week, when he came home and did not see us was angry that I did not tell him where we were going 2) I went to visit a sick friend and he got mad that I did not tell him how our friend was doing while H was home watching children, H never asked our friend directly how he was. Is my action too independent as if I do not care anymore and is that why he is angry? Any suggestions of how I should tweak this? He is aware I am still very eager to keep the M because of the mediator episode and I do not know how to show him I have let him go? I am working on it but in the meantime I want to fake it until I actually make it.
