Can I really do this #2

[Dtrmned]

Not an easy weekend, but not a bad one either.
I did cancel our joint credit card on Friday. Unfortunately, my W didn't call me back when I did until after she tried to use it. Funny how things work, she hadn't used it in awhile, so it was just very coincidental and of course dramatizing how it unfolded. She accused me of retaliating for her taking off the ring. I stated I had just researched it a few weeks ago and it was time. No reason to leave a large credit account out there for either of us to exploit and be accused of anything. She said "but that was for emergencies". I stated yes, it was. We will have to find other ways to handle those. I VERY much validated her feelings and apologized for how it unfolded as I did not mean to put her in that situation. I had called to let her know and the timing just blew. But I owned the issue, validated her feelings, and again apologized for the position she ended up in. I did not apologize for taking care of the outstanding possible blow up issue.
W and I stayed away from each other for the most part except for dinners with the kids.
W did have one confrontation where she accused me again of seeing someone. She, of course, added the "if you are, I don't care, just tell me" line. I validated her feelings an said that this is very hard for both of us as we have said we are going to respect each other in this way while we are living in the same home. If you don't care, why does it matter?
She again commented " Well, with all the changes, you taking care of yourself way better, not angry, and not pestering me, SOMETHING has to have changed". I just told her that I was through being angry and was working on myself and enjoying the children. Again, validated her feelings, did not get drawn in. I think I said something else like, As we are headed through this process that you want us to go through, it is going to be very different. We used to talk about everything, now we rarely speak and it is just about finances or the kids, so yes, I can see how your mind may wander here and there. I do the same.

I did end the conversation quickly and then ran an couple of errands. I am still very perplexed about her swearing I am seeing someone else. As I said, other than my hikes and runs which are all during the day, all I do is go to work and back. We have no money for extracurricular activities, nor do I want alcohol involved if I were just to go hang with some friends for a few hours. I feel this is counter intuitive to the GAL part, but I do not know how to handle and justify this any other way.
Her rage issue is still going on. No sleep, pain, rage so she was very cold this weekend and again we stayed away from each other. I don't think she liked the fact I wasn't following her like a puppy dog and did my own thing. Think this caused her to do some more research on the D/Mediation thing as she spent a bunch of time upstairs with her computer making notes.
Today is another day!
Don't now what it will hold. I did ask how her job search was going as some help paying the bills would be appreciated and she said she hasn't started it yet. Maybe that was the research she was doing.