I am very grateful that Maika put up this thread again. I relate very closely to your situation, although I am still in the very early stages (6 weeks post BD). I am doing all the work (GAL, 180s, NC, talking with a a therapist, reading (already did the codependent book), exercising a ton). I know that I am a better person and stronger than ever before. However, I still struggle with detachment, with feeling that the W will never see these changes.
How long did you go NC? I know all timelines are different, but it is hard not to feel any connection slipping away.
If you don't mind taking a look and commenting on my sitch, I would love to hear your thoughts.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
